How to Survive a Fall (with gratitude)

Earlier this year, my partner and I moved to a new city and into a new (to me) home. As soon as we arrived, amid the unpacking and settling-in, I loved getting to know our new abode; it’s the same … Read More

Relationship Care *for when the world doesn’t make sense

I talk a lot about grief from loss, but there’s a big piece of it that comes from events of the world. When racist hate settled into Virginia this past weekend, I watched it unfold through the safety of the media, … Read More

Taking Temperatures

Some days, I feel on top of the world; I get in my run, I hit all my deadlines, I have conversations that matter, I eat salads instead of leftover Christmas chocolate, and I am winning. Other days, I feel … Read More

What’s Enough, Anyway?

Ok, we’re going to talk about SEX. A few weeks ago, I jumped on a call with some clients, and when I asked where they wanted to go in the session, they blurted out: “Sex. We want to talk about … Read More

After Making Love: Why I Coach

I have a favourite poem and it has, on the surface, at least, very little to do with being a relationship coach. Or does it? After Making Love We Hear Footsteps  by Galway Kinnell For I can snore like a bullhorn … Read More

50 Ways to Love Your Love

Love is a choice. I think as we go through life with our partners, it isn’t always sunshine and roses; sometimes we’re flipping the bird at our partner when their back is turned, or just enjoying that moment when they … Read More

Relationships with Ghosts

As you read this (through the magic of technology) I am nearing the end of an epic hiking journey. I am hiking, for the second time in 10 years, the West Coast Trail on Vancouver Island. (If you would like … Read More

Notes from a Netflix Binge, vol 1

I spoke a few weeks ago about my bingeing/research I do on Netflix, and as I thought about it more, I noticed there is a veritable plethora of wisdom lying with me on the sofa. And so today, for your … Read More

And now I live with a Boy.

I moved out of the home I shared with my ex-husband more than five years ago. It was the end of January, and I remember I was allowed access to my small, two-bedroom suite a few days early. I called … Read More

Sexless Marriage: the slippery slide

Imagine that you have a weekend pass to a huge waterpark. The waterpark has every sort of slide you can imagine, including the straight-shot one that drives your bathing suit into a giant atomic wedgie. You have plans to take … Read More