Relationship Care *for when the world doesn’t make sense

I talk a lot about grief from loss, but there’s a big piece of it that comes from events of the world. When racist hate settled into Virginia this past weekend, I watched it unfold through the safety of the media, … Read More

Leaning In

I’m always going on and on about how we are in relationship with everyone in our lives, from our barista at Starbucks to whomever we land with in bed at the end of the day, and I also know that … Read More

My Own Relationship Navigator

In online dating, I don’t typically tell men that I am a relationship coach, partially because once you know my first name and that little fact, you can find out A LOT about me, but also because I dread the … Read More

Couple Talk Tuesday – Just a Facecloth

  Last week, we talked about Softened Starts, and how we can begin discussions in such a way as to create better outcomes. Here’s a textbook example of one for your viewing pleasure, and a tiny sneak peek at what’s … Read More

Couple Talk Tuesday – Soften Your Start

When we start softly, we get a groovier end. True Story. Next week, I’ll have a perfect (actual) example to share. See how you do with it and don’t be afraid to leave a comment.

Couple Talk Tuesday – YOUR Questions!

Here we go: the first ‘episode’ (heh) where I address YOUR questions. I know! Fun, right? Keep ’em coming in the comments – I will be doing this regularly.  

How to: Killer Conversation

I talk a lot about communication. A lot. I like to talk about the qualities of what I call “Sexy Relationship” – it’s sometimes (and sometimes all at once) gritty, messy, vulnerable, loud, intense, funny, and a million other things. … Read More

Asking for What You Want 101

Yesterday, I talked about how our emotions actually belong to us, and that sometimes we can request different behaviour from our partners to help us shift in how we are feeling. As promised, here is more on that – and … Read More

Couple Talk Tuesday Returns – da da DUN!

This week we’re talking about how are feelings are, well, ours. They are not actually the responsibility of our partner, even though we sometimes like to pretend that they are. Let me know your thoughts in the comments – do … Read More

Gettin’ Enough?

Yes, I could very well be talking about money, wine or sleep, but it’s Wednesday, and you know what that means: I’m talking about SEX. As I’ve talked about in this space, people feel comfortable talking to me about sex. … Read More