Yoga was (or, used to be) for sissies

Believe it or not, I used to be a pretty serious weight-lifting sort. You would not know it by looking at me now, but I used to lift very heavy things in tiny, short sets, not caring that involuntary grunts … Read More

Relationship Care *for when the world doesn’t make sense

I talk a lot about grief from loss, but there’s a big piece of it that comes from events of the world. When racist hate settled into Virginia this past weekend, I watched it unfold through the safety of the media, … Read More

Conversations with an Introvert

Confession: I am an introverted bookworm who would rather shove toothpicks under my fingernails than make small talk. Yes, I will talk about the weather, when I must, but I am also very likely to avoid circumstances where I must … Read More

Taking Temperatures

Some days, I feel on top of the world; I get in my run, I hit all my deadlines, I have conversations that matter, I eat salads instead of leftover Christmas chocolate, and I am winning. Other days, I feel … Read More

The Magic 5

I talk about relationship with some people and I can see their eyes glaze over with the story of it: that it’s hard, that it’s work, and that like Pinterest, it may, possibly, involve a lot of mason jars. It’s … Read More

Let Your Anniversary Change the World

I have been thinking about celebration a lot lately. I was comfortable enough with my work-to-celebration ratio. I mean, celebration is the more-fun cousin of gratitude, and I talk about it all the time, and now it’s actually fuelling a … Read More

Leaning In

I’m always going on and on about how we are in relationship with everyone in our lives, from our barista at Starbucks to whomever we land with in bed at the end of the day, and I also know that … Read More

Wisdom from a grandfather in a boat

When I was little, my family spent a lot of time at my grandparents’ cabin. It was about an hour from our house and we would drive there for the weekend so Dad could help Grampa with the property. I … Read More

After Making Love: Why I Coach

I have a favourite poem and it has, on the surface, at least, very little to do with being a relationship coach. Or does it? After Making Love We Hear Footsteps  by Galway Kinnell For I can snore like a bullhorn … Read More

50 Ways to Love Your Love

Love is a choice. I think as we go through life with our partners, it isn’t always sunshine and roses; sometimes we’re flipping the bird at our partner when their back is turned, or just enjoying that moment when they … Read More